Monday, March 28, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia Part 6 (What JKM & Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil Office Could Learn a Thing or Two From Japan)


So where do SOME of the early childhood care centres in Malaysia go wrong and why something needs to be done to change the whole scenario?

I took the EFFORT of googling some who were ADVERTISING THEMSELVES on the Internet. These are how Malaysia Day Care Centers market themselves (names have been hidden for privacy reasons):

Example 1
WELCOME
Q*** DAYCARE CENTER
PUSAT ASUHAN & PERKEMBANGAN AWAL KANAK-KANAK

We are raising our child to be a successful vicegerent (khalifah) of Allah, who will help to create a truly Islamic world
We'll treat your child as our own child. Fulfilled their needs with love, joy, pleasure with knowledge and creativity. Our Care Centre is suitable for:

    * Baby Below 2 Years Old
    * Todler 2 - 4 Years Old
    * Kids 4 - 6 Years Old
    * Transit Services

 Registered with Jabatan Kebajikan Masyarakat


Example 2:
KINDERGARTEN
TEACHING AND LEARNING
A*-N**E** Centre follows the National Integrated Pre School Curriculum.

TEACHERS
 Experienced and Qualified Teachers majoring in Pre School Education
(Professional Diploma In Early Childhood Education - UM)

 DAY CARE CENTRE
The centre aims to promote the education of children in its care.
We are dedicated to the care and education of

    * Infants from 2 months
    * Toddlers from 14 months
    * Play group Class 3 to 4 years
    * Kindergarten Age from 4 to 6 years
    * School Age Children (7 to 12 years)

IMPRESSIVE? ...lets compare and see how they should MARKET themselves.

Here is how they do it in other parts of the world

UNITED KINGDOM - Kiddi Karu Chain of Nursery

The Childcare Corporation was founded in 1998 upon wholly ethical foundations to promote quality nursery provision. So far investors have entrusted us with over £25 million, which has enabled us to develop state-of-the-art nurseries, each equipped with first class facilities and supervised by dedicated staff totally committed to quality childcare.
The pursuit of our ethical principles is to be found in every aspect of the childcare we provide. This encompasses the environmentally friendly nurseries we design, the staff we employ, the food we serve and the policies and procedures to which we adhere. Importantly, it also covers our policy of communicating openly with all those who entrust their children into our care – this is our promise to you.


JAPAN - WAKU WAKU Hoikuen at the Tokyo Medical and Dental University (TDMU)

Tokyo Medical and Dental University (TDMU) opened the WAKU WAKU Hoikuen on April 1, 2010 on the Yushima Campus with the aim of helping university staff members and students who are managing both parental duties and work/study responsibilities to achieve “work-life balance”.

WAKU WAKU Hoikuen is independently contracted and the operation of the facility is managed by Pigeon Hearts Corporation.
A message from Pigeon Hearts Corporation
Pigeon Hearts Corporation is a 100% subsidiary of nursing-care products manufacturer Pigeon Corporation. As a company whose primary business is nursing-care, we are very aware of the importance of our mission and of our brand of "safety and assurance". We undertake the management of our nurseries with a great sense of responsibility. All of our childminders are conscious of just how precious the lives that they are entrusted with, and that their role is to diligently watch over the children in their care and provide them with encouragement. In a mutually supportive partnership with the guardians, their aim is to create a nursery where they can really help nurture and bring up the children.


From the moment a child is born they have a precious power to "grow ". We want to support this with plenty of love in an environment filled with trust and a sense of safety. We cultivate the foundation upon which our children can live life to the full and build a bright and promising future.

Can't spot the difference?

I personally love the way Kiddi Karu promises to every parent & tell the world how they are different  :
Importantly, it also covers our policy of communicating openly with all those who entrust their children into our care – this is our promise to you. (What Makes Us Different)
And for Waku Waku - SPOT ON for this promise:
We undertake the management of our nurseries with a great sense of responsibility. All of our childminders are conscious of just how precious the lives that they are entrusted with, and that their role is to diligently watch over the children in their care and provide them with encouragement.
In fact I owe it to Yatie for whom have opened up my eyes on how SLACKING Malaysia is in the department of Day Care Centers.

Yatie chomeyl said ...

I've shared lots of info That I gathered from nursery in Japan in my blog.
The purpose of sharing it that the level of nursery in Msian can be Upgraded to a better position.
I hope one day, our ministers will be more than willing to read about it and take a few lessons or two from it

(original comment here

And yes dear, I sincerely hope they will read your posting on:

 
Here is also guidelines which I think are best practiced :

Happy, Safe and Clean

    * Is the nursery bright, warm, clean and welcoming?
    * Is the equipment good quality, clean, safe and appropriate?
    * Is there a safe and clean outside play area?
    * What sort of meals are provided and at what time?
    * Is the food fresh?
    * Can the nursery provide for special diets?
    * Are the menus changed on a regular basis?
    * Do the children in the nursery look happy and well occupied?
    * Are the children using a variety of equipment and are staff involved with their play?
    * Are the staff happy, relaxed, well presented, calm and confident?
    * Ask about the staff to children ratios. They should be:
          o 1:3       0-2 years
          o 1:4       2-3 years
          o 1:8       3-5 years

Sad to say, given no choice, this is what some mothers have to FACE when they send their kids to a day care centre :








Where else in JAPAN, this is what Yatie observes :

All babies (who attend) have their own mattresses + bedding. They will NEVER share with other children at the centre. Parents are responsible to provide mattresses + bedding  for their own children.



This is serious.


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Justice should prevail for Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza

This is not just Justice for a 2 month old baby. This is to ensure that her passing on will leave a mark and a reminder that our country needs a "MOMMY FRIENDLY LEGISLATION/POLICY" for Daycare Centres across the country to be SAFER and TRUSTWORTHY, please help by adding the pledge badge to your widget on your blog

Sunday, March 27, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia Part 5 (Why Am I So Pationate About This Cause)

Friends around have asked me, why am I so passionate about Justice for Adelia.

Because it hits home base for me...

In 2009 after much discussion and due to us shifting (and having to lose a perfectly good baby sitter due to distance) I stopped working and became a SAHM.

Given the opportunity I would LOVE to go back to work. But everytime I do so, I hear YET another baby is received in heaven due to day care negligence.  Its gotta get to you when you that almost EVERY SINGLE DAY; you developed paranoia of sending your children to day care centres.

Malaysia ultimately SLACKS BIG TIME in providing us MOMMIES with what is called "work-life balance"

Close to home, my mother is sad that I have been pushed out by workplace inflexibility. My fears of workplace inflexibility has FORCED me to reconsider how I would HAVE to function as a MOTHER.

It is unfair.

I dream to see that if not for me, but for my daughters to be able to strive at home and their career. I would like that they are able to overcome our country's workplace inflexibility.

If not, then I'll ask them to move to Japan :P

Here is a working mission by the Tokyo Medical and Dental University to provide flexibility to its female researchers. It is already up and running. BRAVO

The TMDU On-Campus Nursery aims to help staff members and students who are managing both parental duties and work/study responsibilitiesachieve “work-life balance”.
Currently, the nursery is scheduled to open after April 2010.

Hisashi Taniguchi, DDS, PhD
Professor
Maxillofacial Prosthetics, TMDU


BEAUTIFUL ISN'T IT?
something the MINISTERS should take into consideration a lot as well
This is serious....

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Justice should prevail for Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza

This is not just Justice for a 2 month old baby. This is to ensure that her passing on will leave a mark and a reminder that our country needs a "MOMMY FRIENDLY LEGISLATION/POLICY" for Daycare Centres across the country to be SAFER and TRUSTWORTHY, please help by adding the pledge badge to your widget on your blog

Saturday, March 26, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia Part 4 (A COLD MONOTONE SORRY)

You guys be the judge. PATUT KE?

Chirbit - Phone Conversation With Child Nursery Nanny;... - nizzampillowdiary - share audio easily

Chirbit - Phone Conversation With Husband of Child... - nizzampillowdiary - share audio easily


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Justice should prevail for Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza

This is not just Justice for a 2 month old baby. This is to ensure that her passing on will leave a mark and a reminder that our country needs a "MOMMY FRIENDLY LEGISLATION/POLICY" for Daycare Centres across the country to be SAFER and TRUSTWORTHY, please help by adding the pledge badge to your widget on your blog

As a SAHM who used to be a WM, I believe that most Malaysian mothers do not opt out OR are driven by MONEY to send their children to day care centers.

SAHM make the decisions because they are pushed out by workplace inflexibility and WM are forced to leave their children in the TRUST of Day Care Centres AGAIN by workplace inflexibility.

And those "inflexibility" need to be SERIOUSLY discussed or dealt with on a NATIONAL LEVEL
Studies have shown that an organization which values its employees and recognizes the importance of work life balance stands to win in terms of staff morale and commitment (Nadeem & Hendry, 2003; Liddicott, 2003

In order to maintain Malaysia's competitive edge in the global economy, there is an urgent need to reduce its dependence on foreign labour and a "brain drain" culture. Policies which promote re-entry of women who have taken time off for child care and more flexibility at the work place need to be implemented by both public and private sectors in a more serious and systematic manner.
Flexibility in the work place and more FFPs (Family Friendly Policies) will not only benefit the organizations to access the global economy but also enable better work life balance and lead to a greater labour force participation among women in Malaysia.(souce : Family friendly policies in Malaysia: where are we?)





Friday, March 25, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia Part 3 (Unconditional Love Goes Beyond The Graves)

Nizzam, Arwah's Father has penned down constantly his feelings. There are times when I can feel a lump in my throat and everything around me. Today he writes :

If it is my Destiny To change how our children are taken care of by strangers, so be it..Then my daughter would be proud of me, from the Heavens above...I just Pray to God to atleast grant me enough tears in my body, so that I may cry at anytime and everytime I miss my daughter AdeLia...Any Father would gladly trade his own life, for a chance to 'spare the life' of his Children. - Muhammad Nizzam Aminuddin
Reader's are now able to catch up updates of this father's journey for justice, convey your personal condolences and your support to Nizzam's at the below community page on Facebook:




On the note of a father's love...we all know how deep it can be :



Conor was born on August 21, 1986 into the loving arms of singer Eric Clapton & his wife Lori Del Santo. When Lori got pregnant and since Eric was English, she felt the baby should be born in England. When the day was there and Lori was brought into labor. Eric rushed to the hospital to visit Lori and being with her at the birth. As it happened, the baby got stuck upside down, so they had to perform a last-minute Cesarean. When the baby finally came, they gave him to Eric to hold. He was spellbound, and he felt so proud, even though he had no idea how to hold a baby.

But however deeply Eric loved this little boy, he had no idea where to begin with him, because Eric was a baby trying to look after a baby. So he just let Lori raise him, which she did brilliantly. She would come and stay with her sister Paola, who also worked for her as her assistant, and occasionally their mother accompanied them, and for a few weeks they would live a very peaceful, family kind of life. Eric used to watch Conor's every move, and because Eric didn't really know much about how to be a father, he played with him in the way a sibling plays, kicking balls around on the terrace for hours and going for walks in the garden. Conor also got to know Erics mother and grandmother, and Roger too. Anyone who came into contact with Conor adored him. He was a little angel, really—a very divine being.

When Conor was four, on the evening of March 19, Eric went to the Galleria, an apartment block on East 57th Street, where they were staying, to pick up Conor and take him to the circus on Long Island. It was the very first time Eric had taken him out on his own, and he was both nervous and excited. It was a great night out. Conor never stopped talking and was particularly excited at seeing the elephants. It made Eric realize for the first time what it meant to have a child and be a father. Eric remembers telling Lori, when Eric took Conor back, that from then on, when Eric had Conor home on visits, Eric wanted to look after him all on his own.

But then the next day (March 20, 1991) four year old Conor, died on impact after a fall from the 53rd-story window of his mother's friend's New York City apartment, landing on the roof of an adjacent four-story building. The main sitting room had windows along one side that went from floor to ceiling, and they could be tilted open for cleaning. On this morning the janitor was cleaning the windows and had temporarily left them open. Conor was racing about the apartment playing a game of hide-and-seek with his nanny, and while Lori was distracted by the janitor's warning her about the danger, he simply ran into the room and straight out the window. He then fell 49 floors before landing on the roof of an adjacent four-story building.

That day Eric was up early because he had to pick up Lori and Conor and take them to the Central Park Zoo. At about 11 a.m. the phone rang, and it was Lori. She was hysterical, screaming that Conor was dead. Eric thought to himself, This is ridiculous. How can he be dead? And he asked her the silliest question: "Are you sure?" And then she told him that he'd fallen out of the window. She was beside herself. Screaming. Eric said, "I'll be right there."

Lori was not about to go down to the mortuary, so Eric had to identify him on his own. Whatever physical damage he had suffered in the fall, by the time Eric saw him they had restored his body to some normality. Eric remembers looking at his beautiful face in repose and thinking, This isn't my son. It looks a bit like him, but he's gone. He went to see him again at the funeral home, to say good-bye and to apologize for not being a better father.

After the funeral, when Lori's family had all gone home and Hurtwood was quiet and it was just Eric alone with his thoughts, He found a letter from Conor that he had written to Eric from Milan, telling Eric how much he missed him and was looking forward to seeing him in New York. He had written, "I love you." Heartbreaking though it was, Eric looked upon it as a positive thing.


Clapton's grief was expressed in the song "Tears in Heaven''.
Written for his son

SONG: Tears in heaven
ARTIS: Eric Clapton

Everything belongs to their rightfull owners.


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Justice should prevail for Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza

This is not just Justice for a 2 month old baby. This is to ensure that her passing on will leave a mark and a reminder that our country needs a "MOMMY FRIENDLY LEGISLATION/POLICY" for Daycare Centres across the country to be SAFER and TRUSTWORTHY, please help by adding the pledge badge to your widget on your blog

As a SAHM who used to be a WM, I believe that most Malaysian mothers do not opt out OR are driven by MONEY to send their children to day care centers.

SAHM make the decisions because they are pushed out by workplace inflexibility and WM are forced to leave their children in the TRUST of Day Care Centres AGAIN by workplace inflexibility.

And those "inflexibility" need to be SERIOUSLY discussed or dealt with on a NATIONAL LEVEL
Studies have shown that an organization which values its employees and recognizes the importance of work life balance stands to win in terms of staff morale and commitment (Nadeem & Hendry, 2003; Liddicott, 2003

In order to maintain Malaysia's competitive edge in the global economy, there is an urgent need to reduce its dependence on foreign labour and a "brain drain" culture. Policies which promote re-entry of women who have taken time off for child care and more flexibility at the work place need to be implemented by both public and private sectors in a more serious and systematic manner.
Flexibility in the work place and more FFPs (Family Friendly Policies) will not only benefit the organizations to access the global economy but also enable better work life balance and lead to a greater labour force participation among women in Malaysia.(souce : Family friendly policies in Malaysia: where are we?)


Wednesday, March 23, 2011

The One About Pink Blankie & Pink Bear-Bear

Remember I wrote about how Ame was comfortably clinging to my blankie here ?
(yeah fancy an old hag like me having one :P)

Well it seems that we are still trying to establish the CHOSEN one hehehe

She still somehow prefers my old smelly blankie

We did try the "smelly bolster" trick (Syasya's comfort is a smelly bolster)
but she has not taken a fancy to it...hmmm

"No Mommy. No Bolster Pulezz"

So I gave her, a pink blankie instead to hold

 

She was definitely very happy with the familiar smell...


but Blankies can be a bit troublesome sometimes...
maybe it would be good to introduce a pink bear as well
though it needed a bit familiarizing...

after much "gomol sana...picit sini...tonyoh situ"
she finally allowed the bear to 
enter 
her COMFORT zone


So pink blankie...
and 
pink bear it is then
..for now
he he he

The One About Getting My Groove Back

Yeah. Point. Shoot. Toggle.

 

The One About YouTuber Rosalinda promoting Malaysia

This is better than Rebecca Black's Friday hahaha

Enjoice ya'all



The One Where Mommy Sings & Ame Farts



Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia Part 2 (Its Never About The Money)

I would be lying if I did not shed a tear again today as I breastfeed Melia.

I would be lying if everytime I open my blog I see the angelic face that bares a slight resemblance to Melia.

I would be with NO HEART if I did not admit I am deeply - deeply moved by this incident.

Arwah was born on 13th January 2011. Melia was born on the 17th December 2011. Evenso Melia was only 38 weeks when she was born. She would have been around the same age if she was "allowed" to be born by 40 week gestation.

My nephew Fauzan was born on 21 January 2011.

TELL ME HOW NOT TO FEEL
Ironically, it was in March 2 years ago I had asked myself the 7 magical questions from "Should You Be a Stay-at-Home Mom? By Soni Sangha.

"Ask yourself these 7 questions to help you determine if being a stay-at-home mom is right for your personality and your family's needs."

But I am here today NOT to highlight my achievements of being a stay-at-home mom.

NO NO NO NO NO

Infact, Moms who go to work and leave their children in the care of someone else are truly by far TO ME are more STRONGER and BRAVER.

I do not have the guts. In retrospect I admit I am a coward.

So today I salute you Working Moms whom have continued to do what you think is best suited for your family. I salute the warrior in you that is brave enough to let another hand rock the cradle. I salute the dignified effort you posses to be able to wave your child goodbye and see her or him again after office. The time you spend waking up in the wee hours of the morning to PUMP Milk from your own blood and even tears to supply your little ones with the BEST you can have at hand. The hard labor of preparing a whole week of purees to be frozen because you simple want the best and only THE BEST. I salute the brave front you put when the 2 months are up.

For a mother who has done that TWICE in her life, it is never ever easy and definately is it NEVER about the money. We all want the best for our family. 

No mother should ever lose a child.

So when I heard about some of THE heartless comments made about MONEY as the motivation for arwah's mother's to work, please...I am sure these people WHO COMMENT are either not MOTHERS or have no HEART. The issue here is TRUST people!

When A'aesyah first babysitter suddenly dropped the bom on me that she could no longer take care of her, I knew it would happen sooner or later. She was young, had a CP child and I knew the MOTIVATION was purely for money. 

So when Deanna came along, she was a gift sent down from heaven straight into my mail box. Printed out on a small piece of white paper where her Name and number and an add calling moms who needed her service. 

Deanna quit her job as an assistant manager to focus on her own child. She had a maid. 

The first time I met her, I was skeptical - she was Thai married to a muslim, greeted me with her hotpants and tank top (at her home of course) I did have reservations but then maybe I was suppose to look BEYOND the tank top and hotpants and RM450 which was STEEP according to the standard rate those days.

BUT!
  • She never ONCE complained about me sending Sya in the wee hours of the morning during my ANZ shift
  • She followed all my STRICT instructions - including giving enough plain water when Sya needs them. TO THIS DAY, MY SYA AMAZES PEOPLE because she prefers plain water to Ribena or any other sweet drink (well..except for fresh milk that is)
  • She has diligently warmed up my purees to feed Sya. 
  • I HAVE NEVER HAD AN EPISODE OF NAPPY RASH or EVEN SYA BEING CONSTANTLY SICK WITH FEVER DURING HER CARE
  • She has even volunteered to take Sya overnight for 3 days when I was hospitalized (for nearly a month) Sya was later transported back under the care of my parents during the course I had spent at the hospital.
THIS PEOPLE IS ABOUT TRUST GIVEN AND TRUST RECEIVED!

~ oh PLEASE. Have you no SHAME for such comments? (read Arwah's Grandma's thoughts on this issue here)

....HAVE YOU NO SHAME??? NO HEART???

Arwah Adelia in happier times with her kakak Alesha

My kids doing what they do best - be a source of happiness for each other


Tell me you do not feel how amiss Alesha will feel...
"Kalau iye pun u rasa diri u hebat dan org lain salah, tolong la pick better time and place to show your 'wisdom'. No need to pour salt on the wound"

tists tists tists *geleng kepala


Justice should prevail for Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza

This is not just Justice for a 2 month old baby. This is to ensure that her passing on will leave a mark and a reminder that our country needs a "MOMMY FRIENDLY LEGISLATION/POLICY" for Daycare Centres across the country to be SAFER and TRUSTWORTHY, please help by adding the pledge badge to your widget on your blog

As a SAHM who used to be a WM, I believe that most Malaysian mothers do not opt out OR are driven by MONEY to send their children to day care centers.

SAHM make the decisions because they are pushed out by workplace inflexibility and WM are forced to leave their children in the TRUST of Day Care Centres AGAIN by workplace inflexibility.

And those "inflexibility" need to be SERIOUSLY discussed or dealt with on a NATIONAL LEVEL
Studies have shown that an organization which values its employees and recognizes the importance of work life balance stands to win in terms of staff morale and commitment (Nadeem & Hendry, 2003; Liddicott, 2003

In order to maintain Malaysia's competitive edge in the global economy, there is an urgent need to reduce its dependence on foreign labour and a "brain drain" culture. Policies which promote re-entry of women who have taken time off for child care and more flexibility at the work place need to be implemented by both public and private sectors in a more serious and systematic manner.

Flexibility in the work place and more FFPs (Family Friendly Policies) will not only benefit the organizations to access the global economy but also enable better work life balance and lead to a greater labour force participation among women in Malaysia.(souce : Family friendly policies in Malaysia: where are we?)





Monday, March 21, 2011

The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia


I am sure it has become viral how parents of the late (arwah) Adelia are seeking justice for the death of the baby due to negligance.

The beautiful, bubbly, shiny-eyed chubby baby with rosy apple cheeks Arwah Adelia Bt Fariza has gone back to heaven after staff to one of the nurseries in Section 10 in Shah Alam found her not breathing. She was said to have had some fluids in her lungs.

Utusan Malaysia Online -
ARKIB : 20/03/2011

Bayi 2 bulan maut tersedak susu


Adelia Muhammad Nizzam


KUALA LUMPUR 19 Mac - Seorang bayi perempuan berusia dua bulan maut akibat tersedak susu ketika berada di sebuah taman asuhan kanak-kanak (Taska) di Seksyen 10, Shah Alam, Selangor pada Rabu lalu.
Adelia Muhammad Nizzam disahkan meninggal dunia oleh pakar perubatan, dipercayai kira-kira sejam sebelum dia dikejarkan ke klinik itu oleh pengasuh Taska.
Bapa bayi, Muhammad Nizzam Aminuddin, 34, melahirkan kesal dengan tindakan pengasuh di Taska tersebut yang lewat menghantar anaknya untuk mendapatkan rawatan, selain gagal memaklumkan segera kejadian itu kepadanya.
"Ketika kejadian, saya dan isteri sedang mencari pakaian untuk arwah di sebuah pusat membeli-belah di Subang Jaya. Apa yang saya kesalkan, pihak Taska lewat memaklumkan kejadian itu iaitu kira-kira pukul 11.30 pagi, selepas bayi kami disahkan meninggal dunia oleh pakar perubatan di klinik tersebut.
"Pihak klinik memaklumkan Adelia mungkin dapat diselamatkan sekiranya pihak Taska bertindak cepat dengan menghantarnya ke klinik sejurus melihat perubahan berlaku," katanya ketika dihubungi Mingguan Malaysia di sini hari ini.
Adelia merupakan anak kedua Muhammad Nizzam dan isterinya, Fariza Tukir, 32. Keluarga itu yang menetap di Seksyen 13, Shah Alam baru dua hari menghantar bayi itu ke Taska tersebut.
Bapa mangsa membuat laporan di Balai Polis Seksyen 9, Shah Alam pada hari kejadian, namun pihak Taska juga membuat laporan polis berhubung kejadian itu hari ini.
Ketua Polis Daerah Shah Alam, Asisten Komisioner Zahedi Ayob semasa dihubungi mengklasifikasikan kes itu sebagai mati mengejut.


Was breaks my heart is her father's pleas for those to be responsible for their actions.

His pleas on the Facebook profile of the allerged nursery has been deleted as they have accusted him of FITNAH.


 Please click on the image for better reading

However from testimonial events gathered from both father and mother of the late Adelia on the particular day we can conclude some negligance had occured. Included are the actual fact that parents arrive at the hospital FIRST before the baby. They were at Subang Parade when they got the call. Arwah was at Section 10. She was rushed to DEMC which is in section 14 Shah Alam.

Here are some of the words her mother has penned down :
Ya Allah Bismillah, help me to strengthened my spirits
Adelia's death was totally unexpected ...my heart is crushed
and I can still feel her linger as I remember the night before how restless she was but there were no cries or tears, how she wanted to cling to us, how she refused to be bottle fed a week before that gave me grave concerns about how I will go back to work.

And thus every drop of breastmilk, I bless thee my daughter in heaven as deemed halal for you.

The morning of 16 March, with great confidence to the nursery I submit Adelia to their care

It breaks my heart to leave you behind. It breaks any mother's heart to do so that I decided to buy new clothes for you to wear to replaced the preloved ones you are wearing from your sister.
...They tried everything but to no respond .. Ya Allah .. Adeline has left for heaven.. Innalillahi wailla hiraji'un .. Mummy Redha your farewell from us dear

.. but why .. WHY .. I need answers.

I did not have the heart to have them slice you up for the post-mortem and to wait for the 2 to 3days process...No mother would have the heart to have their bubbly little princess sliced up.
She ends her note with :

For now .. we know you await us in heaven my child. 
My child is now an Angel. Amin

Even my own eyes are tearing up from translating this heart-felt message..

No parents should ever have the need to bury their child, especially if its only 2 months old, due to negligence of another.

As moral support to the late Adelia's family, I have created a pledge badge for my readers which you can place in your blog so that their efforts and pleas for justice will not go in vain. You can find this badge at the right hand top corner of my blog. The badge will bring you to Mamasita's blog on this plight. For more info and updates please read here

It is also a support to urge government bodies to place FULL GEARS AHEAD on creating legislation that: 
  • It is a MUST for Government or Corporate Companies to at least have a proper nursery so that mothers are able to work and have their children at close proximity (this will also give ease for breastfed babies to enjoy breastfeeding up to 2 years old)
  • Enforce bodies that will oversee safety for all nurseries in Malaysia


The One About MCUG and Admitted in PPUM KL in the Morning but Evening Already in Johor


Helu. Yes. Amazing rite?

Amel actually took a bath at 5am in the morning that day. But then it was motherly instinct.

I had already packed everything for the Johor trip the day before not knowing what to expect.

But if your kid undergoes an MCUG scan, then there are a few things or two that you MUST know as heads up.

But thats another posting (too depressing to write so later dude/dudettes)

Anyway, Amel was discharged at 4pm that same day after I pleaded with the counter staff that we had to travel to Johor to attend a very important function...in which later I cursed 360 degrees considering how RUDE she was. PPUM nurses are hokey. Counter Staff - they come from another planet.

The thing about malay kenduri (a malay feast) which is "annoying" in a bad way is that sometimes the "crowd" makes you feel BAD if you dont attend your own family's kenduri.

Its an unconscious responsibility that you must adhere by all cost - although my mader made it crystal clear it was ok for me not to be able to but the very least to "courier" my 2 older kids with my brother first teehee(who ETD was 1000hours on the very same day from my place)

(luv u lots charlie!)

And my SIL Ina did the last minute phone call to school for my dotter Aliya...

 (luv u lots sis Ina!)

And mom made it a point to understand how Amel might not be well enough for the 3 hour drive and it was OK  (she actually said this a gazillion times - teehee - love u lots ma!!)

BUT screw again for people who like to talk - I was there even at the very last minute to perform my duties as a good dotter with all 3 kids (although 2 was already there) and hasben in tow. TEE HEE.

And my hasben, although pointed out that he was sooooo damn tired in the car, had actually helped with the dishes (teehee - love u lots Ayang!)

By now you wud hv guest wat I had meant about "motherly instict" in the above sentence. But dont get me wrong, Amel was the one who didnt get to get a bath in the evening. Luckily I did when we arrived from PPUM for a quick stop over at our house to grab the traveling bags.

I was utterly truly glad I was dressed to the occasion despite pure exhaustion, my "face" was OK in the picas taken by my brother Charlie hehehe

Anyway, it was my nephew Fauzan Rahimi's (1st for me, no nieces yet either) celebration of passing of rites - the aqiqah. Although a lot of us like to refer it as the Cukur Jambul, it has never been documented that Cukur Jambul was one of the passage of rites that a muslim baby would take. The Aqiqah - yes.

Enough being said....lets enjoy the picas :)








Sunday, March 20, 2011

The One About The Chosen One - Blankie & Horsie

 

I am documenting this for A'amelia Maya Izardy

At exactly 21:56Hours today she chose "the chosen one"
It wasn't a bolster thank goodness.
But nevertheless, it was my own big blankie.

NO WAY. 

So I subsituded. 
Her pink blankie and Horsie - a Russ Berrie Plush Horsie (originally named Derby)

Lets PRAY HARD it stays that way...

Come to think of it it may have been my fault...

To understand the science behind all things BUSYUK read my previous posting here

But anyways....below was Aliya at Age 1 and Syasya at Age 2 (recent obsession)


Bah!! it runs inthe family la hadoi!!

About Me

Farah Rahim is the co founder of the REAL FOOD movement in Malaysia under the local support group called "HOMEMADE - Air Tangan Ibu" as well as an advocate of managing asthma, allergies and eczema naturally via NaturalAAE. She's the official Malaysia's ambasador of Jamie's Food Revolution. When not an activist she's a Stay at Home Mom to 3 girls who loves nothing but good ol' homecooked meals.